Find a good man, that is, I know that we as single women are sometimes so consumed with the desire to be in a relationship with the opposite sex just because of feelings of incompleteness that we can have. I mean I suffer from the same syndrome and that just makes me wonder how much preoccupation our universe really needs. For instance, I imagine that at any given hour, thousands of single women are just sitting and wondering where to find Mr. Right, and I bet that signals in the cosmos, meanwhile, have his wires so crossed that he can’t even focus on meeting us halfway! Think about it, a real case of “Malfunction Junction,” signals going out and wires being crossed all over. How about we turn back to the old way of just waiting and when the time is right, letting it all just happen? Yeah, like we can think away our need for physical contact—sure, that will work!
But seriously, and on the other side of the coin, I have been thinking a lot lately. I’ve been thinking that all the time that we women, whether single or single mothers, you name it, spend lamenting on this great void in our lives, we are often missing the boat on some very important things that we do have. Here’s what I mean.
Do you have a really great friend who you can call on at anytime and she will be there for you and happy that you called? What about one who is always upbeat and optimistic? What about the people that you are blessed to have in your life? I think about my friend who has known me since I was fourteen and who, today, could tell anyone many a secret that I may have long forgotten. She’s my mainstay friend who loves me to no end and will knock you out if you dare say a bad word about me (well, she will knock people out for sport, actually, but I can tell you, she sure is my protector). She and I have laughed and cried and sang and danced the night away for no particular reason at all. Throughout my journey she has been there; through the ups and the downs, the good and the bad. Then I think about my other friend that I have whom I met as an adult and when I think of how sweet this lady is to me, I can’t help but feel blessed. I have never heard her say a bad word about anyone, plus she laughs at all my jokes, so I have to keep her around.
There’s my little sister, who is like a daughter to me; this kid is in my corner and let me tell you, she is such an informer that you can’t tell her anything that does not get back to me. The love she has for me is contagious; she leaves me broke and with nothing to wear in my closet because if I have it, then that must mean it belongs to her. My brother “Naybo,” who goes along with the program of the hour because he’s letting me be the big boss, and one of my other brothers, who just thinks I am perfect. And, of course, there’s my mom, who is simply so everlastingly proud of me, and I have to tell you about my dear and utter confidante and friend who helps care for my children—not to mention my great friend who does security checks on all people coming near me in the form of a simple phone call and is so loyal every day that we breathe the air of this earth, and the list, happily, goes on of the wonderful people in my corner. Of course my precious and utterly wonderful children are a given in this whole equation!
These people make me feel good about being me, and if I spent more time thinking about the blessings of having them in my life, I’d surely spend less worrying about what I “need” to find. So lately I have forgotten about Mr. Right (and anyway, I know he’s desperately trying to find me through all of those crossed signals and when we all ease up, he will come).
So please, for all of our sakes, get your focus off the messages sent through the universe. Do us all a favor and think about your support system and the people who love you and see how you fare off. I bet you’ll find you are a lot better off than you even imagined.
Plus for the rest of the week at 8:00 p.m., I will expect to get through, so ladies, please stop clogging up the system!
